OffWeekend
Find the night you’re both actually free.
You already matched. Now find an evening that works around both your custody schedules, without either of you handing over the schedule itself.
No account. No profile. Takes about twenty seconds.
Why this is hard without it
Two people can genuinely like each other and not share a single free evening for six weeks. Custody schedules are rigid, they repeat on a fortnightly cycle, and they almost never line up with someone else’s. Every dating app treats working that out as your problem, somewhere after the small talk and before the third round of “what about Thursday?”
It is a solvable problem. It is just arithmetic nobody wants to do over text.
How it works
Tap your pattern
Week on week off, 2-2-3, every other weekend, or build your own. Pick the Monday your cycle starts and check it against a real calendar.
Send them the link
Paste it into the chat you are already having. They tap their pattern too. Still no account, for either of you.
See the overlap
You both get the same answer: how many evenings and whole weekends you have together, and the next few. Suggest one, they confirm, you both get a calendar invite.
What we don’t do
There are no profiles, no photos, no messaging and no browsing other people. This is not somewhere you meet anyone. It is the bit that happens after.
We never send your pattern to the other person, only the times you have in common, and only the next few of them rather than a whole month. They see your first name and nothing else about you. An email is optional, used to send you your own link and tell you when they answer, and never shown to them. Links delete themselves after fourteen days, and either of you can delete one instantly.
There is a limit to that, and it is worth knowing before you start: someone who lies about their own availability can still learn roughly when you are free. We would rather tell you than claim otherwise.
Before you start
- Can someone work out when I am free?
- Nobody can look you up here. But anyone holding your link can work out some of it, and that is worth reading about before you send one. The longer answer →
- Do I meet people here?
- No. No profiles, no photos, no browsing, no search, no messaging. You bring someone you already know and it finds hours you are both free. The longer answer →
- What do you actually store?
- A repeating shape, a first name, a time zone, and an email only if you offer one. There is nowhere to enter a child’s name, age or school. The longer answer →
- My arrangement is not a neat pattern.
- Most are not. Build your own two-week cycle with real handoff times, down to the half hour. The longer answer →
One honest caveat
These are school-year patterns. “Thursday after school” means nothing in July, and nearly every custody order has a separate holiday and summer rotation. You can block those out, and you should. Check anything near a school break against your actual order.